common relationship mistakes by Oke Bamidele
After months of searching high and low for a special someone, you finally find him and life becomes more beautiful. And then one day, your almost perfect relationship crashes suddenly and evaporates into thin air.
There are certain mistakes we make early on in our relationship that could lead it to an abrupt end if they’re not addressed. Knowing these errors and how to avoid is very important.
Relationship Mistakes You Should Avoid
1. Falling too fast
You’ve only been seeing each other for one week and you’re already telling yourself he is “the one.” However, a lot of people aren’t in any hurry to commit seriously. Sure, there could be chemistry and a connection, but your new partner may only see you as a short-term fling. Avoid falling too fast until you’re absolutely sure that your partner takes the relationship as seriously as you do.
2. Getting emotional too quickly
The early stages of a relationship can be quite promising, and even if you already feel very comfortable, your emotions may be far ahead than his. So don’t be too quick to make passionate exclamations such as “I think I’m falling in love with you.” You can think, but don’t say it. Only share with your partner as much as he shares with you.
3. Ignoring warning signs
Never overlook little odd things you notice about your partner because they could be a sign of a disaster waiting to happen. Don’t just tell yourself that his good looks and intelligence makes up for his bad manners or weird behaviour. Pay attention to your instincts and don’t ignore the warning signs.
4. Getting physical too early
You can have sex whenever you want, but remember that most times when sex enters a relationship too early, it can take over your emotions and cloud your judgment. This happens to a lot of people – you start dating someone and the relationship becomes sexual. If both of you are not connected beyond the sex, it can complicate the relationship too soon.
5. Being nosy about his income
There’s nothing wrong about asking what he does for a living or if he likes his job, but don’t go too far beyond that. When you begin to ask questions like, “What kind of car do you drive?,” or, “Do you rent or own?” he is going to know that you’re digging for financial information — which is something some people like to keep private and not reveal until later.
6. Becoming too clingy
Some people become very clingy too soon in the beginning of a relationship, which could backfire and make the other person withdraw eventually. People need space, and you definitely have to give your partner his alone time… without you. Try not to smother him with attention.
7. Trying to guess his feelings
Dissecting your phone conversations and trying to analyse his texts in order to guess how much he’s into you can lead you to frustration. Instead, pay attention to how you’re feeling. Many people waste the early days of a new relationship focusing only on the other person. Don’t spend all your time trying to convince him you’re right for him – you should also try to find out if he’s the right man for you, too.
8. Speaking badly about your exes
No matter how much you hated your ex, nobody really wants to hear you go talk endlessly about the last person you were with. Also, if you keep going on and on about how crazy and evil your ex was, your new flame may begin to wonder what’s wrong with you for dating someone like that. Stay away from this subject.
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